Caring for an elderly mother can be rewarding at times; however, it can also be one of the most saddening and vexing experiences. Because mothers deserve to be treated like princesses as they get older, you might feel obligated to constantly care for her. However, this can be trying on anyone’s patience causing emotional breakdowns and short tempers. Here are some suggestions on how to lessen your stress so you can spend more quality time with your mother and less time feeling resentful.

Senior Citizen Living

Sometimes, it is not necessary for an elderly mother to have constant care. She might still be mobile and able to take care of herself. In this case, she might be happiest living in an area that is designated specifically for senior citizen living. Your mother will be able to socialize with people who are all in the same age group and walk of life. This is a positive situation for both you and your mother. Your mother will still feel free and independent, while you can visit her as often as possible.

Assisted Living Complexes

For those mothers who need more help, an assisted living complex is an excellent option. Although an expensive option, those with the means should consider this. Sometimes you can get too busy to properly care for your mother. The people who work at these assisted living establishments get paid to take excellent care of the elderly and ensure that they are healthy and safe at all times. Often, this is better care than you can give your mother at your house. Lives get busy, and truth be told, sometimes mothers can be neglected. If your mother is in poor health, she may get more thorough care at an assisted living complex.


Taking care of an elderly parent can be a fulltime job depending on the health of the parent. As much as you love your mother, providing constant care can breed feelings of resentment. Hiring a caregiver for a few hours a day is a choice that will give you the gift of some free time to run errands or take a warm bubble bath. Caregivers can even be hired to live around the clock with your mother. This provides you with someone who can take care of your mother while you focus on spending quality time with the woman who gave you life.

Ask For Help

You might feel like it is your responsibility to take care of your elderly mother; however, in many families, there are more people willing to help if you ask. Contact any close brothers and sisters, nieces and nephew, or even your children for help. Even if they take a few shifts a week, it will provide you with some time for yourself. Explain that you love taking care of your mother, but you do need some help. Family can be an outstanding resource to utilize.

If you have any resources you found helpful or experiences that you would like to share please do so in the comment section below. I hope this will be a help to someone in need. – Barb